John

A Man’s Guide To Miscarriage

Before I start, I want to acknowledge an assumption/bias that I'm not going to try to avoid when writing about something so personal. This is going to be extremely heteronormative, because while I abundantly understand that IVF is something gone ...

The Birth, And Beyond – John’s Perspective

One thing that quickly became really clear to Laura and me was that our perspectives of the birth were starkly different. Certainly this is in a large part to do with Laura's having access to copious nitrous oxide, but I ...

We Did It!

We made a baby! Toby Walker was born on the 31st October, and is a beautiful, healthy little man. Almost exactly two years after we started this blog, designed to chronicle our attempts to get pregnant through fertility treatment, we are so ...

How Mucus Changed My Life: We’ve Got A Heartbeat

When you get pregnant, there are three main scans. There's the scheduled 12 week and 20 week scan, routine and explained up front. And then the less often spoken about emergency 8 week scan that absolutely everybody has. We had ...

So This Is Interesting…

This blog was created for one reason: to talk about a thing affecting lots of people that is rarely discussed personally. We wanted to publicly share an experience that people often, for sometimes very good reasons, keep private. We’d realised we ...

I've yet to master the hands down the trousers part, though.

Calendar Sex

It's been a while since I've posted. Which I think is indicative of the role I play at this point. Having proven that my swimmers are MIGHTY CHAMPIONS, and mastered the art of appropriately distributing them, there's not really much ...

Hi, I’ve Got Half The Chromosomes Here

Hello... Hello? HELLO?! Hi. Yes, hello. I am a man. No wait, come back! Playing the role of The Man in the process of trying to force a baby into an unwilling womb is a peculiar one. It seems it is often the aim ...

Making A Deposit

While it's easy for me to assume that I'm perfect in every way, others seem to struggle. Such was it that with our current inability to make babies come out, the performance of my sperm was brought into question. Which ...